Be Your Family’s Hero!

GO is a self-defense leadership blog for women 18 to 80, especially moms!

You can also find some unusual on-demand courses here if you’re a self-learner who wants to gain some conflict management and self defense knowledge more fitted to a woman’s needs and lifestyle.

You know how as women many of us live with the fear of potential violence against us or our children–how it undermines our ability to move powerfully in the world and we don’t know what to do about it?

Well, I write about how women and moms can be their own bodyguards by understanding more about human psychology and motivation and by borrowing a few skills and strategies employed by protection industry experts to demystify the way predators and creeps choose their victims and the way crime evolves, so women and their families can live SAFER, SMARTER, STRONGER!

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SECRETS of WOMEN’S SELF DEFENSE

A comprehensive look at mental and physical self defense-leadership and empowerment by and for women, offered in a conversational tone with understanding and humor.

~ Handle emergencies with self-assurance

~ Discover the confidence that comes with self-reliance

~ Separate real concerns from head noise

~ Prepare your daughter for a safe college experience

~ Raise resilient, informed kids who won’t become victims (or criminals)

DON’T JUST SAY YOU CAN PROTECT YOUR FAMILY, KNOW YOU CAN!

We are in the process of moving our courses to a new platform. If you are interested in learning self-defense-leadership by and for women in your own time, at your own pace, please click below so we can update you.

I’m interested in THE SECRETS OF WOMEN’S SELF DEFENSE!

~ STROLLER SELF DEFENSE ~

Learn how to protect your little ones while out pushing a stroller.

~ Practice strategic movement and situational awareness.

~ Arm yourself with the knowledge and tools to mitigate danger.

THIS COURSE WILL HELP YOU CLEAR YOUR MIND OF CONCERN AND STROLL WITH CONFIDENCE!

We are in the process of moving our courses to a new platform. If you are interested in courses please use the contact form below so we can update you.

I’m interested in STROLLER SELF DEFENSE!

Teja has a way of bringing to light things you ought to know but never thought of… and she knows how to convey it all in a way that is easy to absorb. Everyone walked away having learned something valuable and new.”

Tia B, Administrator, Grace Church School
“OMG! You actually had me in stitches! I had kombucha come out my nose! ….This is critical to all women, especially mothers…. It has motivated me to change for the better… I love this!
Deloris D, Secrets of Women’s Self Defense student

If every young female college student or mother-to-be took this course there would be a lot less for me to do.

Colin Ryan, Special Investigations Unit for a suburban Pennsylvania police department

COURSES in the WORKS

Let us know what courses you would like to see next and enter for a chance to WIN A FREE SPOT in an upcoming course!

GOGA

(Self Defense movement flow for Women & Moms)

Learn strategic self defense movements created for the female body. Get STRONGER the right way and without injury. Increase, FLEXIBILITY and ENDURANCE, all while learning the smartest ways to move in an emergency!

The 12 Rules of Disengagement

(What you need to know about how physical self defense works… and how it doesn’t.)

Fighting techniques aren’t the be all end all. When should you fight? How should you fight? When should you run? Should you scream? Should you do what he says? What else is there to know? Quite a bit, actually….

COURSES in the WORKS

Let us know what courses you would like to see next and enter for a chance to WIN A FREE SPOT in an upcoming course!

 

GOGA

(Self Defense movement flow for Women & Moms)

Learn strategic self defense movements created for the female body. Get STRONGER the right way and without injury. Increase, FLEXIBILITY and ENDURANCE, all while learning the smartest ways to move in an emergency!

The 12 Rules of Disengagement

(What you need to know about how physical self defense works… and how it doesn’t.)

Fighting techniques aren’t the be all end all. When should you fight? How should you fight? When should you run? Should you scream? Should you do what he says? What else is there to know? Quite a bit, actually….

“I LOVED this weeks training with Teja. She brought up so many things I’d never thought about – like [the ways] little girls are taught to ‘hang back’ and little boys become more equipped to deal with aggression even at a young age… this is so true! very good info, Teja, am looking forward to the next session!”
Chere H, Student of the Secrets of Women's Self Defense

“This is a college course in self-defense… so impressive in scope and depth and with such an acute understanding of women’s issues. It will be my gift to every woman I know.”

Belisa Vranich, Clinical Psychologist, Author and Founder of The Breathing Class
“I’m learning so much and I love it! And it’s not just the course content itself that is great, it’s the interaction in the [community] group, the discussions, the disagreements… life experiences, the support… and the fun as well!  Thanks Teja.”
Alannah T, Student of the Secrets of Women's Self Defense

ABOUT GO!

GET OFFENSIVE (GO) is a hybrid of self defense, leadership and empowerment created for moms and all women 18 to 80.

GO Online Courses are built to empower you to take on life with knowledge and skills that aren’t readily available (though they should be). It’s particularly good if:

  • you’re in an unsafe relationship of any kind
  • if you have children but no help
  • if you are ill or injured
  • if you live in bad neighborhood
  • or you work at a dangerous job
  • if you work late and ride elevators after hours
  • or if you like to drink and party and would rather not give it up but want to be smart!

Maybe you, your friends or a family member has been assaulted and you want to turn fear to strength and knowledge. Or maybe you’re just just curious about how predators think and what they look for in a victim.

GO IS FOR ANY WOMAN WHO WANTS TO BE ABLE TO TAKE CARE OF HERSELF AND NOT JUST SAY SHE CAN.

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JOIN US! and revel in the chess game of life, dismantle fear, use emotions wisely, see conflict as opportunity, raise engaged, resilient children who won’t become victims or criminals . . .

. . . and, even if it comes to the worst, know you can beat innumerable odds and come out on top!

ABOUT TEJA

My name is Teja, I’m the Owner and Head Trainer at Get Offensive. I’m a 30-year veteran martial artist with a background in edged weapons, firearms and wilderness survival. I’ve studied martial disciplines from many cultures over the years. I have been a personal trainer and a certified Emergency Medical Technician (EMT). I am also the ADHD Mom of an ADHD son.

I’ve been featured in magazines like Madmoiselle and Black Belt and interviewed on Television for ESPN, Nancy Grace, Good Day New York and Veria Living. I once leaped on a melon in a grocery store for a South West Air Super Bowl commercial.

For more than five years, I managed a martial arts production company that created and performed over one hundred staged stunt performances for major events, movie premieres, pharmaceutical conferences and film festivals worldwide. I’ve been involved in many areas of martial arts from stunt performance and choreography, to high-level training with elite military personnel.

I’ve engaged in a number of training exercises I don’t necessarily recommend others try and had experiences I might have been happier (though not necessarily smarter) without–facing down live darts, fighting through pepper spray, feeling the full-body jolt of a Taser, but none of it kicked my ass the way motherhood did.

After months of nausea and sleep deprivation, a third trimester hernia surgery, a blood-born strep infection and post-partum depression, I surfaced in my new role as a mom.

My injury and illness made me vulnerable and caused me to rethink everything I had learned about martial arts, self-defense and fighting.

When had I ever trained with a baby attached to me or while pushing a stroller? How would kicking, punching or grappling even work with a kid in the mix? What were the survival answers to those disturbing scenarios and why had they never come up in thirty years of training?

I’ve been working those particular questions for more than ten years now. My quest is to find the place where self defense meets common sense, where self and situational awareness, strategy and high-speed problem solving coincide; to create a paradigm of empowerment for women who want to revel in the chess game of life, dismantle fear, use emotions wisely, see conflict as opportunity, raise productive, resilient children who won’t become victims or criminals, and who, even if it comes to the worst, can beat innumerable odds and come out on top.

GO! (Get Offensive) is for you if you want to become the hero of your family and of your own story.

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Frequently Asked Questions

What exactly does GO offer?

We offer courses in something new we’re calling self-defense leadership & empowerment. It’s a cross between physical self defense and mental self defense, the combination of which empowers us to move through life with more security and confidence and less fear, apprehension, confusion and anxiety.

Our flagship course is the SECRETS of WOMEN’S SELF DEFENSE, which is a sweeping course built to clarify the way crimes happen and to impart specific tools to help women and moms take control of their own safety and empowerment.

You can find other Courses in the Works here!

Is GO offering physical self defense?

Get Offensive includes physical self defense instruction, but it is a 360 degree look at self defense beginning with how crime happens and how you move through the world.

GO began as  a way to help women learn to protect themselves against a physical attack by moving like women rather than like men, while also honoring a woman’s very specific lifestyle. However, because of the high risk a smaller or pregnant woman, or a women with children faces in physically confronting one or more violent people, GO puts mental self defense and pressured problem solving first.

It’s better to STAY out of trouble than to have to GET out of trouble! Not as sexy perhaps, but ultimately the strategy and psychology go beyond safety and help us get ahead in life.

How do the courses work?

GO courses run online with video, audio, a group forum and printable materials. Courses run live during a specific period. The materials are easily accessible in one simple screen.

The course will be available to you as soon as you’ve signed on and logged in, though new lessons will be released each week of the live course.

Assistance will be available throughout the course and up to one month after it finishes. It is always best to go through the course during the live period, but if you have extenuating circumstances you can always finish in your own time.

There is a 30 day, no questions asked, money back guarantee on all full-length live courses. The 30 day period begins when the course begins (not when you pay!) So you will have plenty of time to see if the course is for you.

Who should take GO courses?

Anyone is welcome to take the course. But GO is built specifically for Moms with young kids and women 18 to 80 years old. We focus on moms because they have the next generation to raise and protect and we didn’t see any self defense options specifically for them.

Founder Teja VanWicklen is a serious martial artist who had a rough pregnancy and realized how much of her training didn’t address situations in which she had her baby attached to her body or screaming in her ear.

The beauty of self defense for Moms is that it easily translates to women in general. Some courses (like Stroller Self Defense – under construction) will be specifically for moms, some (Secrets of Women’s Self Defense) will be for Moms and women in general.

Is there a money back guarantee?

Yes! There is a 30 day, no questions asked, money back guarantee on all full-length live courses. The 30 day period begins when the course begins (not when you pay!), so you will have plenty of time to see if the course is for you.

QUOTE OF THE MONTH:

Arya Stark: “I don’t feel like fighting today.”

Swordmaster: You are troubled, good. Trouble is the perfect time to train.
When you are dancing in the meadow, this is not when fighting happens.

~ from GAME OF THRONES

(“Fighting” implies “Learning”, “Thinking“, “Doing!”)

BE YOUR FAMILY'S HERO!